2012 SECFR Conference

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Official Program Now Available

The official program for the Southeastern Council on Family Relations conference is now online.  To view the program, visit this page. 

Family Life Education Month

February is Family Life Education Month.  For more details, click here,

SECFR Conference Schedule Is Available

Click here to view the schedule for the March 3-4 Southeastern Council on Family Relations conference in Birmingham, Alabama. 

Happy New Year!!!

January column in Parent News, Myrtle Beach, SC. www.parentnewsmagazine.com


ParentsCare

YOU Make The Difference!

Happy New Year!! I hope your holidays were great and you are ready to Jump Start your life anew! There may be no other time in recent history when being connected to family in good ways could be more important. I hate to start the new off talking about sad stuff, but the fact is, folks, there is way too much sad stuff all around us and in our lives. Hoping it will go away will not make it so, nor will we be able to turn everything into sunshine and roses, so we have to be able to accept some inevitable troubles and learn how best to cope and adjust. We adults are obligated to make sure that our children don’t end up being victims of bad times and bad behaviors because of bad times. During this coming year my hope is that when sadness attacks our lives without warning those attacks may in some way bring families closer together. Many families are already feeling the close ties draw even tighter and bind the members into a common caring and mutual desire to let all members know the full measure of their love. Examples are on TV and in our neighborhoods. They count this time as one of reflection and reevaluation arriving at the firm belief that what counts most is family and whatever comes, they will get through it together. That takes courage, strength and knowledge.

Without realizing it, a lot of adults are suffering from the stresses of the unknown. What will happen next? Will more angry and sick people bring death to our country and her people? Will I have a job next month? Will I be able to pay the rent? Will internet hackers become more of a factor to deal with? Will somebody steal my identity? The new car may have to wait, and the college account may have to serve the whole family.

We walk around every day with those and hundreds more thoughts hiding away from our conscious activity, trying to do our routine jobs and pretend that we aren’t worried.
Emotions run the gamut from denying our fears and anxieties to overreacting and supporting violence and judging and criticizing others. Most of us just try to get through each day, and when we are lying in bed at night trying to go to sleep, we are wearily grateful that we have.

Through all of this, stresses are beginning to mount and new emotions begin to present themselves. Tempers run even shorter. Irritability shouts out-of-place words of hurt to those we love the most. Patience is lost and depression sneaks into our senses. We may not want to get up in the morning. We may want to watch TV until the sun rises. We may even begin to behave in ways that say to others in our lives, “I don’t care, I’m too tired, what difference does it make, what’s the use anyway?”

If we let ourselves get to this depth we will be different people. We will be different parents than we were. And, our children will wonder “what the heck in going on here, anyway?” If we allow our “new” self to interact with children and other family members without being aware of the change, some unexpected damage in relationships might occur. We have to be open to the fact that we might indeed be stressed, depressed and different. It is crucial to family health that we adults remain as healthy as possible…recognizing problems, airing concerns, finding solutions and staying in charge.

We can. Here are some ideas as to what it takes.

We have talked many times about how important it is for parents to role model for their children. While it is correct that parents should be real and honest and open with their children, they should also pull every ounce of strength and courage and love and maturity together at times like these. It is vital to the health and continued good growth of the children that we do so. The first key to effective parenting is a healthy self. There was never a better time to show the healthy side of self.

That healthy side is first of all self awareness. Who am I really? Am I pretty effective as an adult, a child, a spouse, a worker, a parent? Am I still holding on to stuff from my childhood, still not loving my siblings like I would like to, or still not being as honest in my relationship with my mother and dad. Still jumping through hoops to please them? Do my own actions help make my life miserable, denying me of the inner strength and courage it takes to get me where I need to be as an individual? Do I respond to others’ ways of being with disability or with ability? Do I overreact, jump to conclusions, seek to blame and find fault to protect myself against my own shortcomings?

What is my attitude about myself, and my relationships with others? Do I think I am better, and if I do, do I throw it in their faces? Do I judge and measure success by what we “have” and not who we “are”? Do I seek to understand others and their ideas, their tastes, their culture, their sense of humor, or do I immediately turn away with obvious disdain?

I need to look in the mirror of self and see just who I am and who I am not and who I want and need to be. I need to eat better, exercise regularly and look at my “to do” list so I can start to reduce my stress level by knowing just what those stresses are. I want to reduce my schedule to a place where I can have “unhurried time” with my spouse, my children, my neighbor, my family.

I want to be the person I want others to be. I won’t expect more from others than I do from myself and I will not express disappointment if they don’t live up. I will be supportive and encouraging for the efforts they make to achieve or to improve their lot or make situations better. I need to forgive myself…take on a more positive attitude about myself and others, cooperate, reduce conflict and truly try to get along.

I want to observe myself in relationships, seeing how I treat others, how I settle conflicts and seeing if am I the one who creates the problems. I want to develop a plan of self renewal and find the person in me that has always been there but got left behind and covered up by years and layers of what and who others thought I should be. I want to finally be my true self and bring that person into this real world where I not only have to take care of myself but several others for whom I have great love. My family.


So, look inside. Then outside. What model are we projecting to the children, to the neighbors, to the workplace, to our family? Each and every family must remain strong and connected internally and with other families. This connection is what builds healthy communities and countries, like ours, so we see just how vital it is to start with the self.

Love of course is at the very root of successful families, but so many people define love in so many ways, and all of them are not good. It takes more than love. It takes the stuff of the healthy individual, awareness, self development, attitude, looking in the mirror, cleaning the closet. It takes a single person to show interest in, care for others, cooperation not conflict, genuine desire for connectedness with family members. And, we can bring all of this into the New Year with a spirit and commitment that will remain throughout the year, throughout the rest of life.

United Families! YOU individual parents are the leaders. YOU make the family work. Make it work even better this year…in love, in courage, in strength, in knowledge and in genuine care, and

Don’t lose heart!


Jim R. Rogers, M.Ed., CFLE
Parenting and Family Life Educator
still learning, inc.
www.stilllearning.org
ParentsCare@sc.rr.com

It's Election Time!

The Southeastern Council on Family Relations (SECFR) is currently accepting nominations for elected and appointed positions. For more information, see our call for nominations. 

SECFR Newsletter Now Online

The fall issue of the SECFR newsletter is now online.  Click the link to read  Fall 2010 SECFR Newsletter

SECFR Social

The SECFR social at the NCFR conference in Minneapolis was a big success.  We didn't take a head count, but the room was packed to the brim with people interacting and having a good time.  We'll plan another affiliate get-together for the 2011 NCFR conference in Orlando. 

SECFR Social at the NCFR Conference

If you're planning to attend the NCFR conference in Minneapolis, you're invited to the Southeastern Council on Family Relations social on Thursday, November 4, from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. The event will take place in Marquette Room 5. This is a great opportunity to mingle with friends, students, and professionals from around the Southeast. Beverages and hors d’oeuvres will be provided.

Same As It Ever Was

And you may ask yourself, "How did I get here?"

From the outset, I need to make it clear that I'm not complaining in this post. I wouldn't trade being a parent for anything in the world. Being a father and a husband are, by far, the most rewarding roles in my life. Having covered myself (I hope), I'll proceed.



Building and maintaining healthy marriages is the theme of a seminar I'm teaching this semester.  In the seminar, I really emphasize the value of having realistic expectations. Anyway, on Wednesday, our focus was the parenthood-marriage relationship.  Knowing that many, if not most of my students, tend to romanticize (over-romanticize perhaps) parenthood, I began by talking about the fairly dramatic changes you experience when you have children.  My list included the usual suspects:

• Less money
• More stress/worry
• Less free/"me" time
• Less couple time (and a decline in marital satisfaction for many)
• Less sleep/rest/relaxation

However, I wanted my students to also be prepared for the one thing that no one ever told me about and that I never read about in a textbook or "how-to" parenting book:  How incredibly routine life can become once children arrive on the scene.  As a married father of three, occasionally I will be struck by the realization that every day is almost exactly like the day before.  Typically, when this realization hits me, I concurrently think of the words to the Talking Heads song "Once in a Lifetime."  Although there's a bit more variation on the weekends, during the work week, there's not much to distinguish one day from the next, other than the shows we watch on television in the evenings.  On the upside, research suggests that things such as routine, predictability, and stability are important for healthy child development.  If that's the case, my children ought to be developing nicely! 

Anyway, in our marriage and family life courses, when we talk about things to keep in mind when considering having children, we should probably also mention the routinization of family life.  Just a thought.

Date Night

Last night was our date night. My husband and I have been married 13 years and we know more than ever just how important it is to get away from the drudgery of the house and kids and just spend time together having fun. We had the sitter all lined up, the kids knew the drill—we even had the movie and restaurant picked out. After the weekend of cleaning the yard, planting flowers, trimming trees, and assembling a hammock, my husband lovingly looked into my eyes and said “if you are too tired, we can just rent a movie and eat doughnuts”. He knows me. I love that he knows me.

We schlepped into the car, I in my sweat pants and he with our 6 year-old in hand, and off we went to find a lazy alternative to our date night. We chose Date Night--the movie with Steve Carell and Tina Fey playing Mr. and Mrs. Foster. Did we see the irony in that choice? Of course we did! Did that add to the insane amount of laughter that we enjoyed for the remainder of that evening? In deed.

Once the kids were in bed, we settled into our reclining couch chairs where we each reached across the non-reclining center seat in order to hold hands. As the movie started, we eagerly anticipated a great comedic escape. Instead, however, we saw ourselves. The movie starts with small children jumping into the bed of two overly tired parents. Been there, done that. In fact, I started my morning much that very same way—the only difference was that my daughter had actually been in bed with me for the entire night, so she didn’t get the running start.

The next scene, and this is where we knew we had to scoot even closer, was when the babysitter showed up at their house. Both parents had forgotten that this was “date night”, and both were so tired, they pretty much wanted to stay home. Unlike the Allen’s that took the lazy night, the Fosters practiced a heck of a lot of positive self talk and headed into the city for an amazing night on the town.

From there, our night, as well as the Foster's night, turned into an amazing range of events--some that look and feel exactly like our normal life mixed with exaggerated events that would simply never happen in real life…to anyone, not even the Fosters. It did, however, give us the chance to laugh really, really hard. We almost even felt bad for waking up the kids with our laughter. Two times.

I study relationships. That’s my job. I know statistically just how important it is to spend time rekindling those old flames and making new memories that support relationship goals. I know that it is very important to simply have fun with my partner. What I know and what I do at home, however, are not always the same. Sometimes life is just really hectic and hard, and I don't always take the time to just relax and have fun. This time it worked out. I was reminded in the nicest way that date night can be anything from a simple movie in sweat pants on a reclining couch that results in laughing so loud and hard that every child in the house wakes up to come and check on their mom, only to discover tears of joy streaming down her face. Spending fun time together makes us happier, helps us feel better connected to our partner, and is good our relationships.


As they say--the cost of the rental movie and Krispy Crème doughnuts--$10. Cost of a night of extreme laughter, rekindled love and a lazy date night with my best friend—priceless

What’s the name of your class?

So my 9 year old daughter was getting ready for her first day of art camp when I realized I had one more form to fill out. I asked her “what’s the name of your class?” She thought for a moment, then answered “I think I’m middle class, mom, but you should know what class we are in. Besides, I don’t think it should matter what class I’m in for art camp!”

At first, I began to chuckle when I heard her answer and I thought, we’ll how clever that she knows her class system. Then I thought… how sad that she knows her own class system. The more I thought about it, the more I realized just how middle class this whole situation was.

Annette Lareau talks about children and class and the difference in parenting styles and class in her new book, Unequal Childhoods. In that book, Laureau explains that in middle class, parents cultivate their children whereas in working class and poor families, parents allow for natural growth.

In middle class families, children have a voice and parents encourage discussion and input in the decision making process. It is common for these parents to engage in regular discussions and decision-making patters with their kids. Moreover, middle class families believe that in order for children to be successful in their careers, they need to train their children in how to be successful in industry. So they sign their kids up for camps, sports, arts, and a variety of other educational activities and all the while talking with their children, inquiring “what did you learn at camp today” and “what activities were most enjoyable to you?” Children from middle class families have the advantage of exposure to child-friendly (ie camp & school) systems that mirror the work systems in which they will engage as adults.

Lareau points out that parents from working classes and poverty love their children the same, care for them physically is much the same way, but these families tend to see development as a natural process and do not see it as a parent’s job to intervene in that natural process. Children from these families are commonly sent outside to play with their kin and neighbors, and have much less adult intervention in their activities. Parents also tend to ask fewer questions and they expect their children to be responsible for their own sense of adventure and happiness. This is in part due to a lack of resources, but for the most part, it is the parenting philosophy that children do better when they are free to grow naturally. These children have the advantage of knowing their neighbors and having the ability to be creative and self-reliant.

In Lareau’s view, this creates a disadvantage for children of lower economic status as these children do not have the exposure and practice in formalized, institutional settings that are full of practice interactions for the working world. The school system is set up for the children of middle class to succeed—teachers engage with the students much like middle class parents interact with their kids. There are questions about activities, opinions and events that children from the lower economic levels are just not used to.

This isn’t to say that one parenting style is better than the other. Lareau is clear to point out the flip side is that children from lower classes are typically happier, less tired and have fewer conflict with their siblings. However, in terms of preparation for a successful career in the current US work force, cultivating parenting has the advantage.

As a parent, this makes me torn. I want my kids to have the experience I did—I want them to be outside with the neighborhood kids creating something out of nothing and truly enjoying life. But I also want them to be prepared for success in adulthood. Moreover, I don’t think it healthy for me to spend all of my mental and physical free time scheduling, transporting and making my universe revolve around their activities. As with most things in life, I think there is room for balance. Art camp was good—I needed to be at work and my daughter needed that cultivation. However, when camp was over, I told her to go outside, find a neighbor and to be home by dinner.


By Kim Allen, PhD
Assistant Professor and Extension Specialist
North Carolina State University
Kimberly_allen@ncsu.edu

Lareau, A. (2003). Unequal childhoods: Class, race and family life. Los Angeles: University of California Press.

National Hispanic Heritage Month

September 15-October 15 is National Hispanic Heritage Month.  For more information, click here. 

National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery Month

September is National Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery Month.  For more information, click here.

Conference Flyer Now Available

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Childhood Cancer Awareness Month

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month.  For more information, check out this link Childhood Cancer Awareness Month

Diversity is a must!

As the dawn of a new school year is upon us I was struck by the number of missing faces in my neighborhood school. Over the past few weeks I have talked to at least a dozen parents who have jumped ship and invested their savings, and their hopes and dreams, in private schools. I understand the frustration and have entertained the option more than a few times myself. But, as I look at the diversity across my child’s public school classroom I wonder if parents are counting the cost of what they are leaving behind.

Academic prowess has become the goal of most parents. Parents do everything they can to give their child an “edge.” Parents put children in tutoring so they can get ahead and maintain their advantage. In an effort to secure a Harvard acceptance letter, parents invest thousands of dollars a year buying workbooks, software, educational toys and games, music lessons and enrichment camps and classes. Few parents devote as much time, thought or energy focused on their child’s psychosocial development.

I value traditional academics, but when I think about educating my children I do not think about factual knowledge. I want my children to think, reason, and analyze, but I also want them to think globally; to understand their place in the world and the impact they can make. I want them to be compassionate, empathetic, and altruistic. I want my children exposed to as many different people, environments, and beliefs as possible. I have toured the many private schools over the years, many of which have superior educational programs, but consistently there is one thing missing: Diversity!

As a parent of a minority child, lack of diversity was a deal breaker. Despite my mounting concerns with the academic deficiencies of my neighborhood school, I could not enroll my daughter in a school where she might be the only minority in her class, and in some cases, the only child of color in her grade level.

Minority status aside, lack of diversity should be a deal breaker for parents of ALL children. All children benefit from spending time with people who are different from them. Children as young as 3 and 4 years old have already begun developing biases and beliefs about people who are similar to them and people who are different from them – and these early beliefs persist throughout middle childhood, and often last a lifetime. Children who live, play, and learn in diverse settings have a more nuanced understanding of themselves and others. When parents give children the opportunity to cross boundaries (e.g., racial, cultural, economic, etc.) they minimize bias, prejudice, and discrimination and increase self-awareness, cross-cultural understanding and acceptance.

My child’s school is not the most diverse, but the diversity in our neighborhood school is at least 75% greater than any private school I have visited over the years. During open house I observed different races, cultures, and varying levels of socioeconomic status. Additionally, I expect there are varying levels of academic preparedness, intention, and ability. So, despite my nagging concerns about whether my daughter is maximizing her academic potential I get satisfaction in knowing that when she looks around her classroom she sees people who look like her and those who do not, when she attends birthday parties she will see people who live like her and those who do not, and when she is grouped with other students there will be students who are academically superior and those who need a little extra help. My hope is that her experiences will minimize her biases, help her identify the similarities among us, and teach her an appreciation for that which makes us unique.

Hello, fellow travelers.

It is an honor to have been invited to contribute to this new CFR site and even more so because it is in the Southeastern United States. I was born here, I live and work here, (even though I was out of it for about 20 years, I did return) and I am pleased that we can finally say that there are Southeastern representatives of NCFR. My sincere congratulations to all of you pioneers who have worked so hard to make this happen and the quality of the organizaion and materials is most impressive. I have been a columnist for a regional specialty newspaper in Northeastern Coastal South Carolina for 15 years and am now sorting through the monthly offerings that are being gathered into a book, hoping to find some pieces that might be appropriate for posting on this site. I will try to choose carefully since I know that you readers and members are highly educated and highly knowledgeable about this field and I don’t want to embarrass myself! I have been primarily working in the Parenting Education world for 19 years with Family Life being added as a CFLE 11 years ago. We have a lot of work to do, don’t we?


ParentsCare is the name of the column I write in Parnet News, www.parentnewsmagazine.com and I work for still learning, inc. www.stilllearning.org where you'll find some details on the ParentsCare curriculum developed for parenting workshops and for facilitator training. You will also find more details about my long life than you would ever want to know. ParentsCare, the columns to-be book, is a collection of personal opinions and suggestions intended to be heart-felt, experiential and educationally-written observations of our most important choice in life...parenthood. The offerings are taken from over 15 years of columns. It is my hope that this future book will become a “bedside” fixture for parents who will read at least one offering per week as they face the hourly challenges and joys of raising children. These ideas are meant to affirm, encourage, support and guide. If you find them helpful, I will smile.


RAISING PARENTS
A collection of personal essays
compiled through and offered by
ParentsCare®
Putting Parents And Children First
Through Family Enrichment Programs

As the new school year begins

Raising Parents

By Jim R. Rogers

SCHOOL SUCCESS BEGINS AT HOME!

All of us were at one time children and the paths that we have traveled to adulthood have been as varied as our fingerprints. Our homes are where we start life from, and when the start is solid and nurturing our chances of being solid later on are better, much better, and we will be more likely to do a better job raising our own children and sending them off into the world well prepared to handle whatever comes their way.

Departments of education, nationally and in state and many districts and schools are now finally emphasizing “parent involvement”, better called “parent engagement” programs which is a really great decision. But almost all of the programs are designed and conducted to help parents help their children achieve academically. Sometimes the parents respond well as then do the children, but often times the parents and therefore the children do not respond well and are unfortunately left by the wayside of learning. There are unfortunately only a few parenting education and family management programs to help parents understand their roles of raising healthy and responsible children. But, there should be. Here’s why.

Effectively parented children are the most likely to succeed at school, be cooperative and helpful in the community, and become productive and healthy adults and parents. Modern parenting education programs, classes and seminars are the most direct way of helping more parents to be effective and sensitive in raising children.

We will have better schools if we have better students. We will have better students if we have better parents. And what I mean by “better” is “effective”. Effective parents should be partners with the schools as team members in helping achieve the students’ success. How effective the parent is at home will better prepare the child to be open and receptive to the wondrous opportunities to learn that the schools and the teachers provide. What a loss in life it is when a child does not receive the educational foundation that is available in many forms in our schools. Many dedicated people work very hard to provide the best education they can deliver. Parents and other caregivers, have to be equally dedicated and caring about doing their part to prepare the child to be a willing learner. That’s why it’s important for parents to start the learning process early, and continue it throughout the formal education years for the children.

Children learn better when their lives are better. When children feel loved, cared for, respected, listened to, included and considered, they feel better. And when children feel better, they do better. So do adults. When children are surrounded with order, structure, safety nets, routines, clear expectations, and lots of warm attention then they feel loved, they feel able and they feel capable. Their desire for learning increases as they feel better about who they are and become more confident in their abilities to achieve.

At the root of a learning attitude is liking to read, and what happens in the home in the early years sets the standard for learning. Reading possibilities are all around us and the internet and your school’s media department are chocked full with ideas and materials. As the parent, our interest in learning is critical as a model for our children. Make sure learning and education are important values in our home. Give support to and cooperation with your schools and teachers. Let our children know that education is at the top of our importance list with reading, learning, studying, having a positive attitude and exhibiting self motivation getting our attention before most other things like, computers, games, TV, playmates, toys, extracurricular activities and wasting time. It’s all important for well-balanced growing, but too often, the lists are reversed and the pieces that are not the most valuable out-weigh the pieces that will give the best future.

Parents and caregivers play the most critical role in the success of our children. Helping them be successful in school is giving them perhaps the best achievement for being successful in life. And success in school does not mean academically successful exclusively. There are many other parts of a successful school life that contribute greatly to our total education. It’s important that parents and caregivers and educators understand that intelligence, top grades, rigid schedules, and narrow focus can also limit positive and successful growth toward adulthood.

There are social, psychological, physical, and emotional growth needs as well. Proper attention has to be given to all of the parts that make us the human beings that we are and will become. Growing up is hard to do. Helping others grow up well is, too. But, it’s our job. We have to know how to do it effectively. Good luck with this new school year and let’s plan to be the best supporter of our child’s education there could be and know that it starts in our home.

Next time, who knows. Until then,

Don’t lose heart!

Jim R. Rogers, M.Ed., CFLE
Parent and Family Life Educator
still learning, inc.
www.stilllearning.org
ParentsCare@sc.rr.com

Conference Registration and Proposal Submission Site Is Live!

The Southeastern Council on Family Relations is pleased to announce that the proposal submission and conference registration site for our March 2011 meeting in Birmingham is now up and running. For details about the conference, as well as instructions for submitting a proposal and registering for the conference, please visit this link 2011 SECFR Conference Website. 

Register now to take advantage of the early bird rates of $99 for professionals and $25 for students and receive a 1-year complimentary membership in SECFR!

An Unexpected Eye Opener

I've spent part of my summer converting the parenting class I teach for online delivery.  One of the units deals with teen pregnancy and teen parenting.  I wasn't aware of it until today, but like a lot of people, I guess I've been more-or-less guilty of viewing pregnant teens and teen moms through a lens of blame and condemnation. 

Anyway, as I was preparing the unit on teen pregnancy and parenthood, I was surfing the internet for supplemental readings and web resources to augment the textbook.  Initially, I looked at lots of research-based fact sheets, policy statements, etc.  These were materials that didn't present pregnant teens and teen parents as humans, but rather as data. 

As I continued my online search for materials and resources, I started coming across sites that had nothing to do with data and everything to do with helping and supporting pregnant teens and teen moms.  These sites really impressed upon me the human aspect of teen pregnancy and parenthood.  I was especially moved by the fact that MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) sponsors a group called Teen MOPS.  My wife has been involved with our local MOPS group, and until today, I had never heard of Teen MOPS. 

Most of the sites I looked at were designed to provide teens with tips and information about resources, services, and parent education.  I looked through plenty of those sites and linked them to my class.  Besides those sorts of sites, however, I also came across numerous online message boards for pregnant teens and teen moms.  These are sites where teen moms and teens who are pregnant can post questions, provide support and information to each other, and receive encouragement, support, information from older women. 

Then the unexpected happened.  The dad in me came out, and I actually started crying in my office.  As I was reading their questions and comments to one another, it dawned on me with crystal clarity, "These aren't bad people who've committed crimes or unpardonable sins who deserve to be looked down upon, shunned, and treated badly.  They're scared girls."

As the title of this post says, it was a real eye opening experience for me.  I don't think I'll ever view teen pregnancy or teen parenthood the same way again.  I still think that where teen pregnancy is concerned, prevention should be our first goal.  However, once they're pregnant or have had children, that can't be changed, and at that point it becomes incumbent upon us to provide them with the acceptance, support, and help they need to be good parents and provide good lives for their children."